Sep 19

Sep 19 5 dating tips I’d make if I had to do it again

this is thanks to my current relationship…

Starting over in the dating world can be both exciting and daunting. Reflecting on past experiences, there are a few key insights that I’d embrace if I had to dive back into dating. These tips are inspired by the lessons learned from my healthiest relationship and I want to help set the stage for a better and more fulfilling dating journey for you.

Share my allergies as soon as possible

Being upfront about my allergies from the start is key. Open conversations about needs and precautions build trust and prevent surprises. This is going to be a constant in your relationship, better to get this out of the way as soon as possible.

Ask myself If I liked them, before asking if they’d like me

I would date someone that I liked being around and that makes an effort to understand me and how allergies impact my life. I used to only cater for them and try hard to not let allergies impact them, but if we are dating , this is inevitable. I am no longer a burden.

Communicate clear boundaries

I’d choose a partner who respects my needs and is willing to make necessary accommodations. My boundaries around allergies have kept me alive, whilst there is definitely room for compromise, finding someone who maintains your boundaries is critical. It’s about finding a balance that works for both of us.

Create an open dialogue

Maintaining an environment where we can discuss any concerns or adjustments freely helps keep the relationship healthy and supportive. Most people won’t know about allergies as much as you and even if they do you will manage them differently to others - always create a safe space for them to mistakes and ask questions.

I would pay attention to my green flags

I’d pay attention to how they respond when allergies come into play. A supportive partner will be proactive and considerate. My green flags include: asking about food, has a record of my allergens, saves ingredients lists, buys/eats safe food, chooses resturants I can go to…. etc.

I am so grateful for the lessons my boyfirend has taught me, and I hope never to use these tips, but I wanted to share to anyone dating now, this is how I would do it because I know what is possible.

Dating with allergies can be a really scary experience, but by embracing transparency, prioritizing communication, seeking empathy and respecting boundaries you can set yourself up for a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship. Each lesson learned from past experiences can guide you toward a healthier and more supportive future. Here’s to new beginnings and finding connections that truly resonate!